Do you sometimes feel that you want to do or say certain things or even have to do or say certain things in order to be recognized, loved and valued by your mom, dad, siblings❓Perhaps even things that don’t correspond to your nature at all❓
Or do you automatically fall into patterns of thought or behavior as soon as you think about your family or get together with them?
Then congratulations 🎉 (or should I say condolences 😂?): You successfully are a participant of the play ‘Family’, in which the roles are played so well that no one even knows who or what is behind these roles, not even yourself 🤣
The causes of this often unconscious play can be the following:
❌ Basic assumptions that you just consider as normal
❌ Unspoken expectations of family members
❌And who knows: for some, the joy of acting on stage 😂
Anyway, I didn’t want to do it that way anymore 🙅♀️‼️
Following one of my mottos, “Openness and honesty creates connection,” I took all my courage and pulled off my mask. After playing the role of the strong, invulnerable, optimistic Nati all my life, it was time to admit to myself,
1.) that I don’t always want and need to play that role
2.) that I am allowed to be vulnerable, sad and find security in the arms of my family instead of providing it.
Was that easy for me? No way 😵😅! Honestly, this has been one of the most courageous things I’ve done so far!
With that step, I not only gained real connection to my family through openness and honesty, but also to myself: I felt freedom, ease and authenticity! ⭐️